Worship God, not because we feel good but because he is good.
There are days that we would rather curl up and die than to go out and tell people how good God is. Things like, feeling unprepared as a band might translate to you, "Our ministry is insufficient", but it is on these days that we have to rely on God to pull through for us, and to use us.

Joking about homosexuality is not funny. In the slightest.
You wouldn't hold a knife to your friends throat and joke around with his life. You wouldn't put your hand on his wife's thigh and joke around with her sexuality. You wouldn't joke about robbing a bank while in a bank. So why do you grab other guys, make homosexually suggestive comments? You call it, "Secure in my sexuality", I call it, "Belonging to the world and leaving Christ at the door".

Don't dream your life, live your dream.
Why should we sit around and wonder about the what-if's? Take care of your responsibilities and have fun. Do the things that you want to do. Don't sell yourself out to crappy jobs. There are better jobs. Ride your motorcycle. Talk to those random people.